LOVE : AN ANALYTICAL APPROACH

Today a large community of love-makers worldwide is celebrating "Valentine-Day". They are keeping themselves engaged in expressing their love, in exchanging gifts & in much more of the likewise traditional activities. This author needs not go into details what in general this word (valentine) means. Yet he feels its different aspects essentially deserve to be studied with an analytical scrutiny & in a bit wider prospect. The Times Of India (Bangalore edition) of this day has published some beautiful materials on this occasion & I propose my readers to enjoy my view-points upon them. On this single day the newspaper places three different angles before its readers, through three different kinds of reading materials, each of which gives a separate scope towards a sincere study of "LOVE" with due significance. The angles are :

(1) A page full of love-messages : ( A Valentine's Special )
(2) A cheap " FILMY " action : ( Lovelorn .... Sholay act )
(3) A philosophical analysis of 'love' : (All ...About Love)

A Valentine's Special :

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In the crowd of common love-messages what appealed to me significantly were a few uncommon messages. Dr. Catherine conveyed her sincere love-remarks, thanks and congratulation towards A HAPPY VALENTINE BIRTH DAY to her mother. It denoted that valentine day is not merely meant to the "Romeo-Juliet" type love makers (or a husband-wife) rather it extends to other relationships as well - where the central feeling of love, affection, gratitude and regard etc. exists. (Someone named "Chini" also conveyed a Valentine-Day message to his/her parents, on the similar lines, & so the author does not require to go in its further details).

Another uncommonity was embedded in the message of one "ArTi" (only God can confirm whether she is an "R.T." or someone else) that she sent to a group of her friends (Abhi, Yachana, Puneeta, Surabhi and, of course, Nepu). Here, too, there is something that denotes the same reflection of its meaning in a different way. It was also not a message sent by a lover to his beloved or vice-versa.

I must not spare mentioning conveyance of a Valentine-Day message from Nicholas to Priya Chandi. In this case, however, it is difficult to recognize as to what kind of relationship grows between them. He claims to be her brother at a place and a friend at the other. Maybe, an extra-ordinary relationship has been developed between them that might equally comprise brotherhood and friendship. (See, this looks like a different situation where a brother & sister ( a blood-relation) remain friendly in our common families). Whatever their relationship might be, the same reflection of its meaning, differently, crops up ----- -----"Valentine-Day is not confined to the lover and beloved ones ".

Lovelorn Youth Does A Sholay act

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It happens only in films ( like in Hindi "Sholay" - remember Beeru, Jai, and Gabbar Singh etc.). But this time, unfortunately, it happened in real in Banglore on the eve of Valentine-Day.In order to commit suicide Kumar, purportedly drunken, jumped (who bothers to ascertain whether he jumped simply because he lost his balance !) from the third floor of a super market building to commit suicide in event of his failure to find his love, “Padma". Good Heavens ! Had he sensibly noticed Padma’s approval ( even if a false one ) he would perhaps not have thrown his life in danger.

Now, when he is survived to face the legal consequences his such “bravery” leaves a question, “ Was this not a different kind of love ? ”

The Speaking Tree / All You Ever Wanted To Know About Love******************************************

Ashok Vohra (H.O.D. Philosophy Delhi University) has scholarly thrown light on several aspects of love we hardly think about. Like ever before, also this of his articles remain thought-provoking. The essence of this article lies in the following facts :

(a) Although love is a basic emotion you can’t plan to fall in love or create conditions for being in love.

(b) Love & exclusive possession (of the object of your love) can never go together. Where there is perfect love there must be perfect non-possession.

(c) There can’t be any sort of bargain in love. It does not recognize reward or punishment. In love you do not desire a favour in return.

(d) The notion of “giving” is consequential to love.

(e) Love requires annihilation of “ego”. It is a total merger, a complete synthesis with the beloved. The sense of your own identity & individuality vanishes.

(f) Love knows no fear. In love there is no place for desire.

(g) You love what you consider to be the best.

(h) Love requires no reasons or arguments. A lover does not depend upon inferences but depends upon direct perceptions & lived life experiences.

Feeling enchanted ?